That’s the feeling you get when you know something’s wrong and you can’t do anything to change it.
As parents we try as hard as we can to keep our kids from feeling that way but every now and again, it happens.
But it happens to us too.
Every now and then we come across a situation that we have no control over. We can’t help our kids and it tears us up. It hits us in ways that we didn’t even think were possible before having kids.
For me, it’s an overwhelming feeling of wanting to rip someone’s head off or completely destroy whatever it is or whomever it is that has somehow hurt my babies. Usually the hurt comes not from physical but from the emotional parts of life and unlike the physical, we can’t see the scars heal so we don’t really know how wounded or hurt they really are.
We are currently going through such a feeling of helplessness now. There is little I can do about the situation and there is little my child can do. It’s out of our hands but the anger and frustration we both feel is absolutely unimaginable.
I didn’t think there would ever be a time in my life when I would feel so absolutely angered by people or things that happen. I like to think that I am the kind of person who rolls with life pretty well. I’ve had my share of disappointments but it feels inanely different and more painful when it’s your child who is hurting.
I know in my heart that I have to take the upper hand in this and teach my child what it means to be a good friend, a true friend, I know that I have to be the bigger and better mom and teach him to get past this in a healthy way.
What are some ways you help your child get over the feeling of helplessness when you yourself feel it too?
basically i first just let them vent their feelings and don’t rush them and just be a great listener and be sympathetic.
Next I would just talk about how life is not always fair. Tell thema story about how you were not treated fairly once- something age appropriate that they can understand
Lastly I would do a group/family activity with them that really boosts their confidence and gives them attention from all family members.