I’m not saying… I’m asking.

I recently joined the social network for parents Babyspot.com and I have a 30 something parents group there (would love if you stopped by!); I posed a question to my group and I will repeat it here because I think there’s more to be said on it than what I did in the group:

I saw this interesting quote and even though it pertains to fashion and style I thought it was still talk worthy nonetheless… " "Parents in their 30s have more life experience and have discovered their own personal style -" It goes on to talk about fashion and such but if you look at the beginning… My question is…
Do you think that parents in their 30s have more experience and does that make them a better or more secure parent?"

The actual quote I saw was here and it does pertain to fashion and style but I’m taking the beginning and asking if a parent’s age makes them better in their parenting role?

I could certainly argue that I think I’m more secure in my parenting. In my 20s I was very unsure of many things and I did a lot of gut checking and feeling people out as I went along. Especially when the kids were little.

Now, on the flipside of that, I’m not sure it had so much to do with my age as it did with how many kids I had.

For instance, when you’re a first time parent everyone tells you to trust your instincts and do what you feel is right but obviously you’ve never been a parent before so how are you sure what is right is really… RIGHT? (I think this why we have social networks for parents), We second guess ourselves and feel out the thoughts and opinions of others to make sure we’re not setting our kids or ourselves up for years of therapy down the road!

Four kids later (and yes in my 30s), I feel like I have a handle on things. No, I don’t feel like I know it all and my kids are always going to do something to make me say "Hmm… Never saw that one coming!" but I feel more comfortable in the decisions I am making versus when it was just one child I had to think about (and I still do ask for help from time to time).

Maybe I’ve answered my own question here or maybe I’ve confused myself even more (and you too perhaps!) but could it possibly be the combination of being older and having the experience of raising more than one child that makes one more secure? For me, possibly.

What about you? Do you think age plays a role in being a good/secure parent?

If you’re a first time parent in your 30s does that mean you are going to be better at it

than if you would have had children in your 20s?

I’m interested in knowing – certainly someone has to have an opinion other than me!

Thank you for coming back! Please take a minute to tell me how I can improve your experience here by contacting me. Thank you for being a loyal reader!

Related posts:

1. Dear Guilty Parents
2. Knowin when to hold em and let em go
3. Trick or Treat: Babyspot CMO Style